I'm sorry for not posting. I really haven't felt up to it. I'm still dealing with a swirl of emotions left over from the emotional "perfect storm" that occurred last week. Besides watching the Dan Wheldon Memorial Service on Sunday as a way to get a sense of closure, I've also had to take my mom to the cardiologist to go over what happened at the neurologist and what her 24-hour heart monitor showed.
Everything went smoothly with both things. The Memorial Service was beautiful, sorrowful, and funny. (Who knew Dan Wheldon had OCD???) I really did feel better for watching it. I had debated with myself for days. I felt I needed to watch it as I was still having a difficult time believing he was really gone. I felt nervous though as I don't tend to deal well with funerals or wakes. I was worried that it would set off an entirely new set of emotions that I just didn't want to deal with. Finally, I made the decision to watch it and record it as well, in case I wasn't yet ready to actually watch the entire thing. Then I could watch it in bits and pieces as I felt ready. I did get through the entire service. I still feel some deep sadness (depression???) over the situation (and all it reminds me of), but I've come more to terms with it. I no longer feel that doubt and uncertainty I felt before.
The trip to the cardiologist was nerve racking. I always hate going to any doctor, but knowing I was taking my mom to find out why she had the episode she did at the neurologist, the one that landed her in the ER for six hours, had my anxiety level sky high. I knew that there was the possibility that her Long QT or her mitral valve prolapse had worsened. I also knew that it very well could be nothing, but just the thought that something could be seriously wrong had my mind racing. Would she need surgery??? This thought kept whirling through my mind, as did other darker ones I don't want to revisit. I did my best to hide all of this from everyone, to act as if it was no big deal, but a did let out a silent sigh of relief from deep in my soul when the doctor said that the monitor didn't show anything very interesting. Her heart rate and blood pressure have been running slightly low, but there were no abnormally rapid arrhythmias which was good. He took her off her beta blocker and reduced her water pill. He also asked her to record her BP twice a day, and she is to go back in two weeks. Despite this good news, I still feel overwhelmed and scared by the entire situation.
The worst thing is that my moods have been all over the place. From day to day or even hour to hour, I can go from sad, to anxious, to giddy, to fearless, to angry at the world, or even to just plain numb and apathetic. It is this last one that has me the most concerned. I can figure out where all the others come from, what causes them, and even how to deal with them. The numbness makes me fear that I'm simply checking out, because I can't deal with things. This is usually what happens when I hit my darkest times, when things become the most overwhelming. I simply don't care at all. Nothing matters. Nothing affects me. I'm simply not feeling. I recognize this when it's happening, I just can't figure out how to bring myself out of it. This brings about feelings of failure on top of everything else. ARGH!
I think this is why I haven't felt like blogging, or really doing much of anything, because I can't figure out these emotions, and at times, I just don't care. I know I'll have to discuss all of this with Rachel today during therapy. Perhaps she can pull out some of her special Rachel power and figure it all out. She has a tendency to do that. Sometimes, it's quite annoying, especially when it's something I just don't want to deal with. LOL
Also, I have an appointment with the doctor on Monday. We will be reviewing meds and hopefully figuring out what to do with these stupid allergies. This has me nervous as it is a trip to the doc, time out of the house, and a possible/probable change, but I've been trying to keep in mind that it is a good thing. Dealing with the allergies and tweaking my meds should make me feel much better. I'm going to try to continue to focus on this and hope that I can make it through without too much anxiety. I will try to keep you all informed of what changes we make and how they affect my anxiety level.
I also want to say a huge thank you to all those who have sent me support during the last couple of weeks and even before. Your support really makes a greater impact than you could even imagine. Thank you. Virtual hugs.